Do grown men cry?
John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, Humphrey Bogart, Robert Deniro. Have you ever seen any of these American icons cry? Do these manly legends shed pellets of salty teardrops off the silver screen?
Do men cry? Do “real” men cry? Let me say this, I wrote an article recently and emailed it to a friend. She forwarded the email to her guy friend, within a short while she receives a text from him that says, “I have never read a more moving story. The mark of a real writer is someone that can make you feel what he is writing. When I finished the story tears were running down my face. I think he knows how much I love and care for you.”
Guess who got a tear in their eye when that text was forwarded to me? Yes, me. The author of that text is a vigilant strong 70 year old man that rides an 1800 cc motorcycle, not fit for wimps nor the faint at heart.
At 46 years old, do my eyes ever liquify? Yes they do and I am not ashamed of that. That is me and I am ok with that. My baby greens shed tears mostly in times of ecstasy and joy. When I see God working in my life so loudly and clearly, I often react with a quick short burst of emotion that sounds more like a cough and disappears as quickly as it came on.
In the heat of my divorce my eyes swelled up involuntarily on a regular basis making it unnecessary to rehydrate my contact lenses.
Does that make a man weak if he expresses emotion? No guy wants to admit to weeping for fear of having their masculinity bruised. As humans we cry. We are built that way.
Crying in the fright of fear ain’t too cool but emotions are heartfelt. Emotions and souls are what separates us from the beasts that crawl the Earth. We are aware of our hearts on an intimate level.
Emotions make life more pleasing. That is why Captain Kirk enjoyed the thrills of living vivaciously and Spoc intellectually acted undaunted in every scene. Let’s face it. Straight logic is just plain boring. I wanted to be like Captain James Kirk when I was a kid, not some pointy eared strange man with a monotone voice that never smiled. Who’s with me on this? Kirk got the girls!
Now that you know one of my boyhood heroes is a tough guy in a skin tight gold shirt, how do tears arrive on my agenda?
One way is as a brand new writer, I can hardly believe that anything my thumbs punch out on my Iphone will “move” anybody. When I learn that something I wrote made someone emotional, I feel their emotion because God used me to reach them and an invisible connection transpired. I immediately get overwhelmed with joy and satisfaction knowing my work made an impact and affected another soul in a positive way.
As for the Hollywood heroes, I opened up this writing asking if you think these legends cry. My conjecture is yes, off the screen their loved ones see teardrops rolling down their bold chiseled faces. These tearful episodes may be few and far between like most guys but I’ll bet the farm someone handed them a Kleenex or two when in distress or in euphoria.
How about you? Can you admit it?
I just did.