It is the mid-1960s the setting and the scene are both borrowed from the film a Bronx Tale.
The young 17 year old impressionable boy just started driving and is being mentored by a local mob boss whom carries a tremendous amount of respect in the all Italian neighborhood.
Sonny the mobster teaches the teenager a lesson whom was dating a girl from another race. Back then that was as controversial as if Snoopy was hanging out with Felix the Cat.
In a New York City accent, Sonny says (paraphrased), after you open the car door for her and you go to put the keys in to unlock your door, if she reaches over and unlocks your door for you, she’s a good woman and worth keeping.
If she does not open the door for you, get rid of her and run the other way.
I adopt this lesson to modern times for it is rare to find a car these days containing manual locks.
Adaptively applying the same lesson in similar fashion, I ask the woman what her favorite Bible verse is; and after her response, if she asks me mine, she’s a potential keeper, if she does not ask me mine, that is not a good sign. She is probably self-absorbed.
If it is a mindless moment for her and she does not ask me my favorite verse, and yet I have an interest in her, I may have to rent a car with manual locks and see if she leans over to unlock my door.
I write this story with tongue-in-cheek yet with a subtle amount of seriousness.
At the root of a good relationship, I believe it needs to be paved with strong and similar values and valuing the other person is key.
If any possible future relationship of mine stumbles across this blog and reads this story, you are given a heads-up, lol.
The moment is magical in the movie when the teenage girl reaches over to open the lock for the protagonist in the tale, of course the moment is shown in slow-motion as the boy gets an extra skip in his step riddled with excitement and a high-five type of smile and shouts yes!
Kindness feeds the soul.