Just a guy on a Journey!

“All in a days pay.”

“A penny saved is a penny earned.”

“Winning isn’t everything but wanting to win is”

And then of course Benjamin Franklin said, “Well done is better than well said.”

Above are just a few quotes about life, work, money and attitude.

We all know the value of good health but what quote or mantra promulgates us towards that end?

The ideology of exercising needs to be more than Charles Atlas saying nobody is kicking sand in my face.

What famous quotes are there about good health? Off hand, I cannot think of any and the sand in face thing doesn’t speak to me. I am not much of a beach person so the chances of me becoming covered in sand and looking and feeling like a sugar cookie is highly limited.

Discussing weight loss with the man in the white lab coat (my doctor) at a routine visit, he said I like the idea of you losing weight. All disclaimers suggest discussing with your doctor before starting an exercise program. Ha, ha how many people actually do that?

The one thing Dr. Capio said that is most memorable to me and will always stick with me is, “The more you do the more you can do.”

Now most of us middle-aged or over the age of 50 cannot do what we were able to do in our teenage years but dammit, I don’t want it to digress and get any worse than it is today so I am committed to doing more.

I want the “can-do.”

I want the can do more! I am greedy for life. I want to be able to do more. Therefore I am sold on, “The more you do” part of his statement. I am now doing more.

With every curl of the iron dumbbell and with every lifting and slow decline of the weights in isometric reverse pressure fashion, in an exasperated breath, I tell myself the more you do, the more you can do.

Nobody likes loss and loss of muscle is a bummer and can be avoided by simply making a decision and doing more.

For people with shaved, chiseled and sculpted bodies drinking raw eggs, you don’t need this message but you are not the majority.

Avoid atrophy. Do more. “The more you do the more you can do.”

As I write this, it makes me think, the more you do TODAY, the more you can do TOMORROW.

Are you with me? Great! Live Dr.Capio’s quote and I will see you on the ball-field or simply flicking a plastic disc through the air at a local picnic.

The more you throw today the more you can throw tomorrow. You can be the active grandparent jumping high for an overthrown frisbee as the kid shouts sorry.

Dr. Capio’s quote is more valuable than the quote “Benjamin Franklin said, although with the results of determined exercise and doing more today, I do believe Mr. Franklin would say, “well done.”

Well done my friends, well done.

“Yeah me too!!!”

Just like Russell Crowe in a Beautiful Mind seeing visions of people and actions that don’t exist, I see a man having a one way conversation limited to only three words.

Screaming at the top of his lungs a local man yells out in a thick Italian accent “Yeah me too!!!” “Yeah me too!!!” “Yeah me too!!!”

Projecting his voice louder than a jackhammer breaking up resistant concrete so it can be heard a few houses away even with the air-conditioning on.

I can say he sounds like a broken record but it is not broken. It is not perpetual and never ending as a broken record implies.

Sounding more like a cassette player set to auto-rewind and playing over and over through shoulder-high speakers is more descriptive. You know the kind, the old wooden ones that would vibrate spilling the cup of coffee that you placed on top of it.

This retired man from the pasta factory yells his 3 words in sets of 4 or 5 at a time.

The good news is he can have a regular conversation as well.

I wonder if I was challenged in the same way as this man what 3 words would I be stuck on.

If I can preprogram my brain for a time down the road where this could happen to me, I want my three words to be “You are beautiful.” Or 4 words, “Yeah you are beautiful.”

You are beautiful! You are beautiful! You are beautiful!

May I ask, what 3 words would you choose if your fate ends up with you screaming daily from a front porch?

Do share. After all, you are beautiful.

You are beautiful.

Are your kids growing up? Enjoy every minute of it and the magic of them growing never slips away.

A Facebook friend asks on his status how do you keep the magic alive. He is referring to coming home to his houseful of kids including the sibling rivalry, chaos and love all wrapped into one.

My reply is enjoy every minute of it and it never slips away. But my answer defies time, even Steve Miller said Time keeps on slipping, slipping into the future.

Back to enjoying every minute of it and the magic last forever. For me that means you will have magic memories of when the kids believed in fairy tales, unicorns, and faraway lands covered in lollipops. The innocence of children is magical.

You just need to be present. Be available. Always be available for your children. Always.

Hopefully they will remember the magical times as well.

The magic grows when you leave a legacy for your kids.

The best gift you can give anybody is wings. Wings built on time, love, and encouragement manufactures wings better than any wings built in a Boeing assembly plant.

Endow the spirit of them having wings and the ability to take off and set flight and get what they need and also what they want in life.

Watching your kids or people grow and take flight is the magic. The beauty is having fun along the way.

Steve Miller goes on to say he wants to fly like an eagle, until he’s free.

Eagles represent freedom . Freedom is magic.

Spend time with your family now, be present and have no regrets and as a parent you can fly freely knowing your kids have the ability to fly and be free with nothing weighing them down.

Leave a legacy of wings for your kids and magic happens on both ends.

From a parent side you know you did everything possible for your children and the magic is seeing them grow up and succeed in life. I can fly freely with the pride of an eagle knowing I was there for my kids and always will be. I can soar high.

From the kid’s side the magic is they have been gifted with wings. They can soar high.

They can rise, they can soar, they can fly like an eagle with the freedom knowing they were and are brought up in love.

And love is magic.

Children are magic.

Legacy is magic.

Wings are magic.

Keep the magic going my friends.

There is no deceitful trick in the magic of family but if there is a magic solution for these young critters, it is a mixture of time and love, seasoned in encouragement and peppered in fun.

Shake the magic potion of time and love together and enjoy every moment, even years later and that is how you keep the magic going.

You can label the potion “Worthwhile Wings” or Wings for short.

Now that is magic.

The good the bad the good.

My title to this story is a cheesy ripoff of the classic Clint Eastwood movie The Good The Bad The Ugly.

Sitting alone on a beach blanket at a local State College waiting for the band to come on, I write these words.

The good:

The good in my title tells of a time in fairytale land where three beautiful children are being raised to be all they can be and where a family goes out on outings together as a whole family.

We would frequent The now defunct Fairytale Forest in North Jersey where you are greeted by a giant egg-shaped Humpty Dumpty sitting high on a concrete wall. It is a memory my kids still talk about to this day.

It brings great memories for me, my parents took my brothers and me there when I was a little kid.

Excited to go back as an adult, we would take my oldest boy there in a stroller and then 2 more kids came along so I had to go back there at least three times and that is good. Carrying a baby in a backpack on your back is good.

Family is good. Family is important. Families are a gift from God.

The Bad.

Families breaking up is bad, in fact it downright sucks for everyone involved. Divorce leads to gloom and dark clouds roaming the sky on the sunniest days. Like Springsteen said, “it’s raining but there ain’t a cloud in the sky.”

The good:

Kids grow up and become young adults with their own homes and are only a text message/phone call away.

They are my family and that is good.

The bad: I’m on this beach blanket by myself.

The good: Darkness changes to light if you wait the whole day out.

More good: Being alone, I have plenty of room on my blanket here to stretch out and write this story while beach balls fly over my head.

It is mostly families here. I wonder are people wondering why is that guy by himself.

I conclude, it doesn’t matter if they are or if they are not.

The good is (always seek the good) I am enjoying live music and music moves my soul and it’s a perfect summer night.

I would like to encourage any of my divorced readers or those going through divorce, separation, or breakup, remember when you got married it was good.

There is good, there is bad but then there is good again. I promise.

Your pain and struggle is bad but after the bad comes the good.

There is so much good in this world. There are so many good souls out there. Focus on the good.

The good part of being alone is more time to do things of new interest with an opportunity to grow or to renew old and abandoned hobbies. I am playing chess from this phone with my son and that is good. It’s another fun way of communicating with him and we both sharpen our analytical skills. And that is good.

The bad: He beats me most of the time.

The good: Each time I end up in checkmate I become a better player and that’s good.

The horns are shouting and the band is covering Southside Johnny so it’s time to go but be aware of the GOOD THE BAD THE GOOD.

After the bad comes the good.

The Cars said it best, “Let the good times roll.”

Good things come to those that wait.

Hang in there my friends and be good.

I am bouncing around like an aerobics instructor at an Elvis Costello concert near Woodstock, the English native is belting out what’s “So funny about peace love and understanding?”

The heart driving beat has the sound of a fast moving train screaming out a clattering rhythm on noisy tracks. Most people look like they are in an exercise class in full motion adjacent to the wide-open Yasgur’s Farm.

The man with thick black glasses is strumming an electric while questioning the concert goers “What’s so funny about peace, love and understanding?”

Well…before we discover what’s so funny about it, it must first be defined.

Peace is self-explanatory.

Understanding is self-explanatory.

Love? Not so simple to define.

Sure love can be funny, just observe two sweethearts walking to setup a picnic blanket while a guy carries a Longberger basket stuffed with goodies, that’s kind of funny. It’s even funnier if he is the one that owns it. Oh, the things we do for love.

What is Love and how do we define it? Love is a noun, love is an action making it also a verb.

Pondering what love is I get out my notebook and jot down 25 things what I think love is.

I cheated and used part of the definition from 1 Corinthians Chapter 13 rather than Mr. Webster’s book.

I like to keep my stories short so I will share the 25 things in future writings and I will start with two of the attributes of love today.

1.Love is patient.

2.Love is kind.

Discussing these items with a close friend over a lakeside dinner, he said “Yes Tim, with you people must be patient.”

We both laughed and that is what’s so funny about peace, love and understanding.

I am throwing colorful darts in the heat along the banks of the low-flowing Delaware River feeling frustrated as a mechanic dropping a screw in a tight area of the engine compartment.

The light-weight flying bullets are landing nowhere near the bullseye.

Did you ever miss the target? Of course you did. We all do.

Retrieving the hand-thrown pieces of plastic and pulling darts from the board, I am thrilled to know the game is not over.

I get another shot, another chance.

Such is life. We may not hit the target on the first, second, third and even multiple tries.

The key is to take another shot. Keep aiming, keep throwing. Tenacity is key when the target is in sight.

Keep your eyes on the target.

There will be both frustration and fun along the way. The key is to keep on shooting.

If you don’t give up you will eventually hit the bullseye.

The bullseye here is a metaphor for hitting goals.

Find the bullseye, put it in sight. Imagine hitting it and keep on throwing!

Now get ready, aim, fire!

Slithering slowly along the side of the trail a 3 to 4 foot rattle snake slowly makes his way back into the woods.

Enamored in awe for such a sighting is rare on the Jersey and New York State border, after all today’s hike is not taking place in Arizona. I want to get up close but wisdom suggests the best way to avoid getting bit by a snake is to avoid the snake.

Snapping a picture I am fortunate I have my good camera in stow and there is no need to get close.

Continuing my hike along this rigid mountainside my eyes are now open as wide as the width of the Grand Canyon in an effort to avoid danger.

I have encountered a few snakes over the past year near my residence and places of work and my friend ask me why are you coming across all these snakes?

Climbing the rocky mountainside with my eyes now peeled wide-open for these slithery creatures my thoughts are why are these snakes in my life and do I have a story here built around seeing snakes.

After taking a breather on top of the summit and shooting a quick photo overlooking the lengthy Greenwood Lake from far into the air, I start my hike down along the Appalachian Trail back to base camp.

Within twenty steps of me descending off the mountain ledge and a few seconds later I hear the bushes rustling out of nowhere.

A quick look up reveals another 3 foot plus snake slithering along as he stops for a quick picture. This one is without a rattle but the timing of seeing it tells me you have a snake story Tim or at least a lesson about snakes.

Look closely to the left of the tree.

“Watch out for snakes!”

Snakes are real in reptile form and unfortunately experience shows me there are also human snake-like people. Avoid them!

Watch out for snakes.

Almost finished with my thought provoking hike I stop cold in my tracks. This time not on the side of the well-traveled trail but in the exact center of the path coiled up and rattling is a giant snake. He is warning me with his tongue flickering in and out and a tail shaking with the sound of a rattle as if a baby is in a crib nearby shaking a little toy.

Taking my camera out of the bag Mr. Rattler is coming towards me.

Common sense says go around the snake but first I had to get a picture for this story.

Watch out for snakes!

When you encounter a snake on your journey do not invite it for a walk with you. Avoid it, keep on walking but simply walk around it.

The message for me today and I share with you is “Watch out for snakes.”

If you do not want to get bit WATCH OUT FOR SNAKES!

Here comes the sun..do do do do.

Here comes the sun…

What a way to start the day. Waking up to an optimistic song is a good way to start a happy day injecting joy into the moment. Music moves our soul and “Here Comes the Sun” written by George Harrison not only moves me it brings an important message. (“The smile is returning to the faces.”)

Appreciating the sound of rain pelleting against the black-top and bouncing off the streets with the sweet smell of refreshment while keeping dry under a clear umbrella, I don’t mimic such appreciation and awe on those days both with no sunshine and a lack of rain.

I wish it either rains or shines, just don’t go grey and dreary.

Cloudy days…cloudy days deliver drear causing motivation to stand still.

Dissipating into the dampness of the day is that gung-ho let’s kick-ass feeling. A good way of putting it is simply say it’s a yucky day.

We all feel a yucky day from time to time. It tends to surface more on those dark, damp and grey days.

But wait! Here comes the sun, the smiles return to the faces.

Even on those chilly damp days when bones feel like a used cold wash-cloth on soft skin, the sun is coming. Here comes the sun. It may not show itself today or even tomorrow.

Short of the Earth being eaten by the heated pile of burning and whirling gases floating in the sky, the sun as we know it will come out again radiating refreshing rays restoring smiles to our faces and it’s alright.

Actually it’s more than alright, it will be a happy day and we know it is coming. On a blank day like today we simply need to wait a bit and the sun will break on through delivering the happy anti-depressant vitamin D we all need.

Here comes the sun. Little darling, here comes the sun. Wait for it. Here comes the sun and it’s alright.

Go ahead, start your day for a week straight each morning listening to “Here Comes the Sun” and feel your energy revitalize.

“Little darling, here comes the sun and I say it’s alright.”

“The smiles returning to the faces.” 🙂

“Here comes the sun.”

Humidity stifling the thick air today and a brief rain shower blessing my late lunch in a New York park caused us to quickly pack up and dash to the local eatery on a Warwick farm.

Soon the grey sky opened up with a bit of blue bleeding through the dissipating clouds.

Seeing the rain stop I step outside the roadside tent waiting like a kid waits for ice-cream watching it being scooped in a creamery behind the glass waiting for a treat to unfold before my very eyes.

What am I waiting for? A rainbow. Yes, a rainbow of course. I stood under the cloudy sky as the sunlight narrowly emerged in anticipation of a roadside rainbow.

It took a while and my hope of seeing the magic colors was turning bleak as the sky appeared empty.

Suddenly, the magic I am waiting for displays itself in bright and colorful delight.

The arch was not complete and only a quarter of the rainbow dazzled in the sky. Nonetheless, reflecting in the sky are the colors I looked for.

It was not jumping out of the sky with obvious fashion. I had to look for it.

Such are the things in life, sometimes they fall into our lap and sometimes we just bump into them. Other times we need to look.

Beauty mists in the sky. You just have to look for it. It is the same in life. Plans get thwarted and a soaked and wet spinach-salad in the park is not the most tasty and beautiful sight as the sky releases an overflow of condensation on my outdoor lunch.

Yet, the beauty is there when you wait for it and you look for it. Simply put, sometimes you have to “look for it.”